To my radiant, brave, and bold sister,
First of all, I love you. I love you for being a woman because it’s honestly the greatest superpower in life. Men will never understand the beauty we hold and the strength we carry. It’s such a gift but it’s also the reason we’re ALWAYS confused, emotional, and in need of chocolate. Amen?
Let me be the one to remind you that darling, you are not like the rest. Sure as women we can agree on our moods and emotions changing but aren’t we more than that? You are an unrepeatable work of beauty. Not one thing, person, or object can embody what you do. Own it! Take a moment to open your heart and hear these words;
“All glorious is the King’s daughter as she enters!¹ For I know well the plans I have for you, says the king. Plans for your welfare and not for woe. Plans to give you a future full of hope.² I will rejoice over you with gladness, and renew you in my love!³”
That is the most trustworthy, realest, and purest love you will ever read and it’s power probably frightens you.
I’m not sure where you are right now, what you are doing, who you are with, or what is attacking you. Reading this either makes you turn away, laugh, or feel unworthy to be loved so much. You feel that way because, well, it could be negative thoughts, anxiousness, hurts, school stress, insecurities, body image, the memory of a bad sports game, purposelessness, lack of love, thinking you need a boyfriend, loneliness, or all the above. I need you to ask yourself, “how have I been hurt and what lies am I still living in?”
Some thing, some person, some breakup, some family chaos, some experience has probably numbed you and made you feel hurt and defeated. As a result you stopped believing in a beautiful life for yourself. I have been there and I spend my days hoping I never let any small circumstance defeat me. God’s great and mighty strength Has revealed to us (through scripture and Jesus) that when He takes away our burdens and hurts we are free to dream again. The problem isn’t you, your body, your looks, or your failure… it’s what you think of these things and what you’ve told yourself to be “true.”
I need you to begin –or renew– a beautiful, ongoing adventure with God. Being on an adventure with God will involve doubts, worries, and fears so bring them along. In fact, that’s what makes for a more fulfilling adventure! In His hands, in His words, in His spirit is healing love that will take away all the hurts that hurt you.
I write this to you because I need you to know you are beautiful even if you don’t feel it. I laugh to myself when people tell me I look good in a picture because usually I felt like a bloated, crampy mess when it was taken. Nevertheless, someone, some child, some teen, some friend, some adult looks at you and believes you are the most precious person to exist and that is more powerful than what the negative thoughts or bloated stomach could ever tell us. Even more than they do does God see this in you, too. I think, so often, we mistaken truth for what feels good but the firm perfection and unchanging Truth of what God says is more solid than your emotions, insecurities, and moods (which change every three hours…every three minutes) and that of other people.
When God breathes into us His love, purpose, and strength all insecurities run away in fear of His might. Sometimes we need Him to do this several times a day and that is OK. If opening your heart to the one who loves you the most sounds terrifying then you’re in the right place. An invitation to God’s love, peace, and purpose are not common thoughts today and let me tell you; many people will mock this but hold tight.
I need you to know, darling, that I write this because His love for you is the most radiant thing you could ever wear. You won’t ever need to explain yourself when you are covered and protected under God’s strong arm. You will radiate a bold strength that you won’t need to explain to others. They will be so drawn to you that it won’t matter what you’ve settled for before His love.
How do we fill ourselves with God’s Love?
Glad you asked. Here are small, powerful game changers to get you on the path of becoming the woman you dream of being.
- Slowly read Scripture until something hits you.
- Let God look at You.
- Go to Mass, Confession, or Adoration.
- Tell Him what you’re afraid of.
- Speak about your loved ones.
- Pray for an enemy.
- Tell Him about your failures. Ask for help. Listen.
- Ask Him to show you the next step.
- Promise Him you trust Him.
- Receive the Eucharist as often as you can
Your relationship with God is the strength that touches your heart and changes you, but there are also things you can do in life to be able to see Him more clear:
- Surround yourself with good friends.
- Don’t seek/wait for gratification from others (likes, posts, constant social media)
- Receive compliments from others when they come
- Don’t respond to upsets by saying, “I hate my life.”
- Be mindful of what you watch, listen to, read, and hang around. Everything you put into your body is shaping you.
- Workout; move your body
- Cry when you need to
- Do not isolate yourself or remain unattached to your loved ones
- Dream about your future
One of my favorite quotes is by a woman named Saint Theresa Benedicta of the Cross. She said, “The woman’s soul is a fashioned shelter in which other souls may unfold.” If you look deep into the truth about what your body expresses and does you will see that it is a creative force that can lead others to hope and even bring new life into the world. Women are the ones who inspire others. Women are the ones who motivate men to be mature (right?). Women are the ones whose entire presence can calm others. Until women take time to let God love their hearts she will never feel this strong.
Wake up sis it’s time for a life of passion, zeal, and love. A life Jesus showed us was capable of living. Walk with purpose, be radiant, be bold, be brave, be YOU. Live an unshaken strength that changes the world. As you walk down the hallway (wherever you are) hear the sound of your pump up theme song play in the background. Because when we walk confidently with the Lord, holding us up against all the enemies, we can see and hear Him look down on us, nod with affirmation, and say; “that’s my girl!”
Proud of you, sis. Xo,
Pray this daily until you believe it in your heart.
I am a daughter of the Most High God.
I am a princess in my Father’s House.
I am made in the image and likeness of God.
Jesus is my beloved and I am His.
I am beautiful and precious in His eyes.
He has given me dignity, value, and worth.
I will place my hope in Him
and the power of His ability to resurrect the dead stuff in me.
I am greatly loved and greatly blessed.
The Holy Spirit has chosen to dwell in my heart.
The Spirit of God lives in me.
I have a blessed Mother who loves me with a mother’s heart.
I will walk in this Truth,
I claim this identity as my own today, tomorrow, and the rest of my life!
¹Psalm 45:14, ²Jeremiah 29:11, ³Zephaniah 3:17