Raise your hand if you, or someone you know, has said,
“I am more ‘spiritual’ than ‘religious.'”
In giving no credit to their deep heart and wise insights to a living and breathing spirit of God people think they just have a “yoda” spirit. Some inner Buddha jawn and peace from CBD oil and essential oils. #Ok
Whether people believe in prayer or not, many are open to the idea of someone praying for them. Others reply, “Oh, no. There are far more people in the world who need more prayer than I do! Save it for them!”
For those who believe in God, no explanation is necessary to convince them of the effects of prayer because they know something will effect the situation whether it’s what they want or not.
For those who do not believe in God, or doubt His omnipotence, an offer of prayer is usually only accepted when the person offering the prayer is seen as trustworthy, admirable, appealing, and intentional. … they’re like, “Yeah, I trust you, so I’ll take what you bring to God.”
Regardless of who your God-given kindred spirits are, that’s the whole idea behind prayer. Those who offer prayer for you admire God and hold Him to high esteem of ultimate worth and know He can do big things.
In their trust and love for Him they are saying to you, “wow I am so moved by your story, your heart, and the witness of your life. And since I know how much chaos and hardships consume us in life I just really would love to ask God to grant you a blessing, a taste of his love, or anything to help you find sense through it all.”
Christians know that God will use those prayers to help create opportunities of peace, security, and great strength in your life. Someone praying for you is knowing they’re encountering a moment where their love, held inside of their heart, unites itself to God’s love. These prayers begin creating new insights and clarity to all involved. God will give anything to help those in need get back on track towards happiness.
But what if I don’t get what I want?
We won’t always get what we want, but we will always get what we need because what we think we need might not be what we need. Follow?
Obviously Jesus didn’t want to die on the cross, but He did and later found out it was what we needed and He doesn’t regret it.
“I would die all over again just to hear you tell me you love me,” Jesus to St. Teresa of Avila
When we pray, we are opening our minds to all angles of perspectives and outcomes. We are stretched wide in our understanding, knowledge, and wisdom. We grow in deeper wisdom than in just seeing God as a genie who grants wishes. God is a gentleman who proposes invitations of time-well-spent with Him. He want’s to pursue your heart and prove to you just how far He will go to make your life worth living for. He will stand up for you, and with you.
He is not a rich Father who just gives you what you want and never makes intentional time to listen and be there for you.
We lose peace or find prayer wacky because we perceive the idea of prayer as a “wish to be granted,” when at it’s core, it’s communication and conversation with God (a spirit of love), the same way communication and conversation happen among humans. In my experience, a lot of people say,
“why don’t I have clarity yet, you’ve been praying for me for so long!”
The effects of prayer don’t normally happen in prayer, but while you are living and going through the daily grind of life. Thoughts and things to meditate and contemplate are prayer, but the effects take time, decisions, trial and errors, and hard work. The point of prayer is that it should change you, make your more human, and equip you for the rest of your life!
When we don’t have certitude after enough time in prayer, or after X amount of time on a novena, we are not able to see clearly because we are in a rush, on a time-limit. We’re invited to God’s house for a dinner date every week, but we end up taking the food and never spending time with the one who made it –getting to know each others heart. We are often afraid that prayer will make us miss our chance or make us into something we are afraid to be so we grasp at things and do them our way. God has no time schedule, He is “crock-pot” cooker; slow and to savory perfection. He will keep you in the crock-pot as long as you want or need.
“By coming to prayer (and especially in Mass or Eucharistic Adoration) we are handing Him the keys to our hearts, allowing the rays of His love and grace to bathe our souls in the light of His presence, as the rays of the sun bathe our bodies in light. If we can take time to pull away from the busyness and distractions of life and just sit at His feet, He will lead us.”
Prayer is a call to exercise our desires. Many people lose themselves to the world’s invitation of philosophy such as,
“I’m only being realistic.” or
“I’m stupid to think my situation can change.”
or “Maybe my expectations are too high.”
or “If I didn’t want that so much, I wouldn’t be hurting so much.”
But God says no to all of that. Prayer awakens us up from the slumber that these draining and miserable ideas give us. Prayer is a never ending hope of fulfillment and satisfaction. We have to let God stretch us wide when the world stretches us thin.
“Our hearts a gymnasium of desire. If we want to pray always, we have to get in tune with the deepest desires of our heart and let God stretch them. The increase of our longings is the increase of our prayers.” –St. Augustine
In his book, Searching For and Maintaining Peace, Fr. Jacques Philippe offers 5 tips on finding peace, through God’s aid, especially in the circumstance of ‘big life decisions.’ For those who are privileged enough to have someone tell you, “I am praying for you,” this is the door of your spirit they’re unlocking for you.
1. Avoid being in a hurry
Give yourself proper time to consider what is before you from all sides. Allow yourself the freedom to take your time and peacefully decide. Especially if it’s a decision that affects the rest of your life. Mature reflection and prayer happen over time, not over night.
2. Do what’s appropriate. See the situation clearly. Don’t decide arbitrarily.
Analyze: ask yourself, what are your motives? Are you deciding with a pure heart? Are there personal gains involved? Wounds to be healed?
Take advice from others, those you trust and who know you well. Pray to the Holy Spirit, and ask God for the strength to do His will.
3. The LORD does not want us to be self-sufficient in big decisions.
God permits that sometimes we need help from others, not just Him. Ask trusted friends to help. This opens us up to opportunities of humility and trust.
4. We will not always have a direct response.
In the search for God’s will, we will not always have a response. The Lord will often spark us and speak to us in diverse ways to help us see and understand how we must act. When He doesn’t speak (for reasons of His own) He leaves us free to decide.
Do not seek, at any price, for a definitive answer. This is the trouble you feel in your spirit: that there is not a definitive answer.
Dispose yourself towards God and quietly accept what is happening. Don’t “force things” and torment yourself when you don’t have an evident response.
5. Remember: God rewards according to your intentions.
“Go! Your faith has saved you. Be free!”
Jesus said this every time He performed a miracle for someone who had confidence in Him. Jesus will do for us what we know He can confidently do. Have faith and let Him build trust with you. Whatever you do, pray and act on the fact that your intention is to do good.
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“I’m praying for you.” does not mean “I am pitying you and trying to “fix you.”
By the glory and goodness of God the good news of Christianity is that because the resurrection happened, your reality is no longer fixed, it can be changed.
Permanent DEATH was reversed for God, what you find killing you, draining you, making you miserable can be reversed as much as Jesus’ death was. Jesus’ greatest suffering did not end in sadness and neither will yours. Remember that each event in your life is an invitation to lean on Him, to trust Him, and to walk with Him.
That is prayer.
A friend who is praying for you
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