Ladies, y’all know if he doesn’t cry we’re turning right back around and leaving the Church, right?
Guys, pressure is on. . . But, not really. You won’t have to cry on purpose if you’re actually in love.
Think about it; when Adam see’s Eve for the first time, he is stunned. Okay, no–actually, stunned is an understatement.
“This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh!” -Genesis 2:23
When I read that passage the first time, I had no idea what it meant. At all. After 3 years of hearing it in chastity talks, it hit me. I pictured Adam’s reaction to be the look a groom has when his bride walks down the aisle on the day of his wedding. As much of a “cliché” you think this reaction is, (or as much as you think it is unrealistic) let me paint a spiritual picture for you.
There is something so special about this moment. It is so real. The sight of a mans future bride’s radiant beauty is so pure in heart.
He’s not looking to his bride as an object to use that night for a fun time in college, or a woman to manipulate wondering whether or no “we’re a thing.” He’s looking at a radiant woman he chose to freely lay his life down for, to provide for, to take care of and love until he dies. A woman he can gift his entire self to.
The very sacrament of marriage is a celebration of two imperfect people standing before each other, before their family and friends and God to prove to the world that their imperfect love for each other out-pours in their heart and soul so freely, totally, fruitfully, and faithfully that they don’t know what else to do with but to vow each other their self.
“Here you go, my beloved bride, here is my bank account, my job, my house, my loans, my past, my present, my future, everything I am and everything I am striving to be. Here is my free time, Friday nights, Saturday mornings, and Sunday’s.. and all the work I do 9 – 5 Monday through Friday.
Here are my arms to hold you up when you fall. Here is my heart when you need love, compassion, intimacy, and empathy. Here is my mind that I’ll use wisely to help bring you to understanding in life. Here are my legs to support our whole life together and the kids we have. Here are my lips that will profess my love for you by the words I speak and endless kisses I give.
Here is my body, given up for you.”
And if that’s not the most visible reflection of who God is for us well gosh, then I don’t know what else he could have done to show it.
Christ walked willingly into His crucifixion by his complete and total free will, motivated by a love he could not contain for you. I know Jesus didn’t fully understand it in the moment, if He did, he wouldn’t have groaned and cried in agony the night before. The weight of your misery and hardships in life is as heavy as that cross. He endured it all to show you that His love was not some fleeting feeling, but a promise, a vow, a sacrifice, to faithfully stick by your side and offer the victory of his divine love and body, “all the days of your life” (see what I did there). Do you realize how far He went as a perfect God…
Marriage is a mere glimpse of the kind of sacrificial love God tries to lavish on us everyday. When we feel the love of Christ in us, we have no other option but to take that love and gift it to other people–especially your spouse (or future spouse).
We all want this. We envision our wedding days as much as we can. How do we get here?
I have a post on being single, so check it out. A couple on chastity, too. But, this time around, I want to focus on the practice of keeping purity of intention with yourself, others, and God. This is not “sexual purity” but a single-minded fixation on being your best self and loving the God of all love with all your heart, mind, body, and soul.
A singular purpose and agreement to be all who you want to be, to radiate the fruits of the Holy Spirit (God’s love) in kindness, joy, and peace (Gal 5). To strive at these fruits, while keeping communication with a loving God you will one day keep your spouse in your life so effortlessly and love them exclusively and passionately.
I imagine the tenderness Adam felt when he met Eve, an awakening and realization of wanting to be intimate without shame and to be able to gift himself and share in love with someone who deserves everything. And likewise, he was able to receive the gift of someone in return.
Damn. Love is awesome.
With all my love,
a hopeless romantic